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Emma K. ViglucciThankful RestructuringCouple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent in their constant efforts to address the impact of their relational style.The partners might feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the level of reactivity in the temperamental relating and/or sad and alone by the distance in the tenuous relating. Find out how to change your relational style! Keep reading…SUCCESSFUL COUPLESGet On the Same Page & Create a Satisfying RelationshipCreated by Emma K. Viglucci, CFT, LMFT, CITMarriage and Family Therapist, Writer and SpeakerAssists Couples Succeed at their RelationshipFounder of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLChttp://www.metrorelationship.comCall us at 646-228-8782 or Click Here

Couple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent in their constant efforts to address the impact of their relational style.The partners might feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the level of reactivity in the temperamental relating and/or sad and alone by the distance in the tenuous relating. Find out how to change your relational style! Keep reading…

TABLE OF CONTENTS

1. Nurturing Nugget

2. Welcome Notes3. Feature Item: Thankful Restructuring 4. Related Activity and Meditation / Visualization5. Affirmations for Couple Success6. Resources for Couple Success

1. NURTURING NUGGET

Flood your partner with a litany of things you appreciate about them and that you are thankful for in them. Be Thankful for your partner!

2. WELCOME NOTES

~ WELCOME to our monthly issue of Successful Couples! And welcome to the MANY new subscribers!!

Has time slowed down, or is it my imagination? Or, maybe it’s my own experience of time… Just last week I was sharing with a colleague that in my reality it is usually Christmas by now! Time goes so fast for me that in the blink of an eye we are in the next season or year. I find I can’t fit everything in or struggle to enjoy each moment – they seem so fleeting. Not this year! It is only November, I’ve gained about two months!! The secret? I’ve focused on doing some deeper Self work. The impact and benefits have been far reaching. I continue to notice new positive results every day. I am Thankful for the all the glitches, tests, challenges, and stretch requests that come my way as they are all opportunities for growth and healing. I am Thankful for all the gifts, in all their forms, in my journey.

I share my nuggets here with the hope that you can use them to crack the codes to the impasses in your life and make leaps and bounds in your own journey. What current issue, challenge or difficulty can you reframe in your life as an opportunity for growth and healing? What is the lesson you are supposed to get? What is the skill you are supposed to learn? How does your partner play into this? Be Thankful for this opportunity to grow your Self up. Remember, the neurobiology of our brain does not allow us to be in a state of fear and appreciation at the same time. Tap into your appreciation, be Thankful, and experience a smoother path in your relationship and your life.

Have a Wonderful Thankful Thanksgiving!

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Announcements:

1) I spoke at the NYAMFT-Metro on Stop the Drama, Manage the Fighting: Treating the Reactive Couple on 11/5/10. Sorry if you are a professional and missed it! You’ll have another opportunity to hear me on this topic on 2/8/11 through The Meadows. Keep your eyes peeled for additional details. This one will be open to the public.

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This issue is about relating intentionally and gracefully. Keep reading!

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3. FEATURE ITEM: Thankful Restructuring

Couple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent in their constant efforts to address the impact of their relational style.The partners might feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the level of reactivity in the temperamental relating and/or sad and alone by the distance in the tenuous relating.

The temperamental relationship might appear chaotic, volatile, reactive, the partners are all over each other. The tenuous relationship might appear rigid, cold, boring, polite, a lot of rules are in place, the partners lead parallel lives. Some relationships might fluctuate between these or have traits of both.

Regardless of the relational style polarity the partners tend to create, one of the common denominators between the styles is their ineffective system structure. The couple system consists of two individual subsystems, the partners. How these are aligned within the couple system determines in part the effectiveness of information and energy flow between the partners required for building intimacy and connection. When this flow is disrupted by an inappropriate systemic structure, the partners can not be their authentic selves in their interactions nor be fully alive in their relationship.

Imagine the partners as circles. In the temperamental relationship, the partners are enmeshed with one another. Their individual circles might significantly overlap one another or one might engulf the other. In the tenuous relationship the partners are disengaged where their individual circles might be very separate, might have an obstruction in between them, or are above one another. Combination of these are possible creating more complex interactional patterns.

Imagine the couple system itself represented by a circle that contains the individual circles structure. The success of this system depends also on how the individual circles are positioned in relation to it. In some troubled couples, one or both of the individual circles might be outside the couple circle, or the couple circle is barely discernible. In these cases, the energy is leaked out of the couple system giving the partners a double whammy to deal with – funky relational structure and views.

It makes sense then that couples would struggle… And, a little mis-alignment is probably present in most couples, not just the ones screaming for help… How can couples possibly experience and enjoy synergy!? We haven’t been taught how to do relationship health and maintenance. If anything, most of us have grown up with mediocre relational role models at best.

Not to worry, good intention and an open heart is a good beginning. Then, restructure your system to its proper healthy functional order! How?

1) Mind your interactions to see if you are doing any engulfing, owning, dismissing, rejecting or other disruptive relating with your partner. Correct any tendencies to do this.

2) Accept your partner fully – you don’t have to love everything about them or agree with everything they say and do, but try to understand, get and accept them for who they are.

3) Treat your partner as an equal and invite their authentic Self to come out and play.

4) Address gender and other roles, expectations, cultural influences and differences.

5) Cooperate with each other. Set up clear responsibilities and opportunities to shine.

6) Have functional and efficient routines for taking care of the business of life. Schedule staying current discussions.

7) Have a united front, work as a team, address any obstacles standing in between you or pulling you apart.

8) Build in couple fun and intimate time. Dialogue about what it takes for you to feel special in your relationship and how to sprinkle that into your relating.

9) Re-introduce old rituals and create new ones. Intentionally interact with one another. Regularly share what you appreciate about each other.

10) Set out to create the relationship you want with your partner. Mark your calendars with your next “Relationship Check-up Chat”.

The current state and structure of your relationship is a manifestation of your and your partner’s growth opportunity. You are co-creating exactly what you each need right now in your journey to continue to grow and heal your Selves. What a beautiful and humbling treat! Don’t let the moment pass you by, savor its richness. Appreciate the way of things.

Happy Restructuring!!

4. RELATED ACTIVITY AND MEDITATION / VISUALIZATION

Discuss with your partner ways in which you can each bring more equality, respect and intention into the relationship. Share with each other one new behavior you each intend to implement to foster effective information and energy flow between you for greater connectedness and intimacy, healing and growth.

~~ In my prayer time today, I express my appreciation for all of my partner, all our challenges and all the opportunities to heal and grow.

5. AFFIRMATIONS FOR COUPLE SUCCESS

~~ I am Thankful for all I Am.

~~ We accept each other fully and appreciate all that we bring to Us.

~~ We invite and nurture our Authentic Selves in our relationship. We glow in our synergy, we transcend the mundane and bask in our light and our love.

6. RESOURCES FOR COUPLE SUCCESS

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Note: This newsletter provides insights and resources for couples at all levels of satisfaction in their relationship. It assists couples enhance their relationship, maintain changes, and nurture the relationship and themselves. The content of this newsletter is just food for thought, a source of inspiration and ideas, and a resource. It is not intended in any way to be therapeutic or a substitute for professional assistance. The content is provided under the assumption the reader is involved in a non-abusive committed long-term relationship. Please refer to our website Disclaimer and Conditions of Use. If you believe you require further assistance than is provided here, please hire a Couple Therapist or other relevant professional. We specialize in working with Couples – you may contact us at 888-880-9055, 212-537-9055 or Click Here.

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byAlma Abell

As age increases, it becomes very hard to deal with the common day to day life activities such as cooking and taking care of a household. This problem could be compounded further by development of age-related illnesses or other health complications and disabilities. With time, it becomes really difficult to handle an aged person and the only solution is letting professional caregivers nurse your loved one. Here are some of the major benefits that come with Senior Active Community Living in Omaha.

Specialized care

When an aging person is residing in the home and developing age-related health complications, you will not be able to give them the specialized care that they need for their problem. It is therefore advisable to get a loved one to a place where they will get the following:

* Round the clock checkups and attention.

* Specialized meals for their health condition.

* Specialized care and therapy to make life easier for them.

Some of the age-related health complications are dementia, diabetes, loss of visual acuity, blood pressure and heart health issues, arthritis and osteoporosis. These are conditions that can only be managed by specialists.

Living with age mates

Old people do get lonely when they have been left all alone in the house as people go about their day to day activities. When they are allowed to live at a senior’s community, they will have peers with whom they can interact all day long eliminating loneliness. In these communities, they can organize parties and other life events together and share their common past with people like themselves which makes life more fun.

They are very safe

As mentioned, age brings with it a set of health complications. These complications can make activities as simple as driving a nightmare. For instance, you can imagine what would happen if a person suffering from Alzheimer’s decided to drive to the store for some groceries and forgot the way back home. Allowing this people to live in a secure and gated community protects them from the perils of the day to day life.

These are the benefits that make a senior active living in Omaha one of the best places for your aging loved ones.

byAlma Abell

The amount of time spent in the hospital can be helpful for recovery after major surgery or severe illness. Having doctors and nurses available in the hospital anytime they are needed can save someone’s life if unexpected complications take place, or when conditions are discovered that need to be treated as soon as possible.

Despite patient focused care becoming more common, staying in the hospital can be very difficult. The hospital environment is usually not very comfortable for a patient. It’s now thought that recovery can benefit from a patient being in their own home. A patient that is home is usually much more comfortable than a patient in a hospital.

Home for a patient can be made to suit whatever needs a patient has when they return after a hospital stay. No matter how much time a patient spends in the hospital receiving care, support for the patient’s physical and emotional needs is as important as treating any illness.

Though many people do not want to stay in the hospital, much has been done to improve care according to the needs of a patient and according to what the patient experiences at the hospital as well.

While at the hospital, a patient can get care not only to treat any medical conditions but also to prepare them for returning home and receiving ongoing care and assistance there. It is important to find the right kind of nursing care, that supports the care from the hospital as well as meeting the needs of the patient at home as they change. Many times, the hospital can give a patient a list of providers for nursing care at home. It is up to the patient to decide who they want to provide for home care.

There are several ways for someone to choose nursing care in Potomac. Getting suggestions for providers from family or friends can be useful. Contacting a provider to learn what type of services they have available is a good idea.

Quality care is now available from trained and experienced nursing staff who can help provide care by visiting patients in their own home. To learn more about nursing care in Potomac, Visit Specialtycareservices.com for more information.